Cornelius & Heather, for those out there reading who may not be familiar with you, please tell us about yourselves!
Heather: Hi everyone! Thank you for having us Black Fitness Today. My husband was excited because working out is one of his favorite hobbies! For those of you out there that don’t know me, I am completely obsessed with Jesus, my family that consists of my first born, Logan who is 3 years old and our sweet daughter, Taylor who is 7 months. I started an organization called Pinky Promise that started off as a bracelet & now 4 years later has transpired to a movement of over 40,000 women around the world. Shout out to all my Pinky Promise sisters! We also pastor a church in Atlanta, GA called The Gathering Oasis! Lastly, we have about 12 books together and we discuss everything from courtship God’s way to depression to womanhood, manhood and eternity.
Cornelius: I am the husband to Heather Lindsey. We have two beautiful children, Logan and Taylor Lindsey. We both reside in Metro Atlanta, Georgia. I am also the author of seven books—So, You Want to be Married?, I’m Married. Now, What?, Suffering in Silence, Decoding the Silent Man’s Language, So, You Want to be a Man, Learning How to Walk, and Not For Sale. I also am the pastor of The Gathering Oasis Church, which is located in Lithonia, Georgia. I’m also a gym enthusiast who truly believes in physical discipline and pushing myself and body to the limit.
You did not kiss each other until your wedding day! What lessons did you learn during your courtship and how has that strengthened your marriage today?
Cornelius: I write about the many advantages of not kissing during our courtship in my first book, So, You Want to be Married?: An Alternative to Dating and Perfecting the Journey to Marriage. For my wife and I, the issue wasn’t kissing. It was about setting righteous standards where we both could honor God in our courtship. Neither of us had good relationships before we met one another. We were determined to do it right and truly honor God. We learned how to deepen our communication, which was a struggle for me early on in the relationship. I didn’t like to talk and share my feelings. Not being able to kiss and be physically intimate forced myself to open up and give Heather something more valuable—my heart. Heather was able to learn how to trust me as her leader. She had many men tell her they would not kiss her until they were married, but none followed through with it. I was willing to earn her respect, which ultimately helped Heather to righteously submit to a man she knew she could trust. For the first time she felt safe and protected in her relationship. We also learned about the value of accountability, the fruit of self-control, and the true meaning of how to honor one another and God.
What are your favorite methods of exercise to stay healthy?
Cornelius: My wife and I love interval training, and I have gotten into heavy lifting. Heather prefers to workout at home with different workout videos. I go into a gym at least four times a week. We both enjoy running around our neighborhood, and I love to practice some boxing and kickboxing in our basement.
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