On your website you talk about the deep depression of losing your job, and then weeks later losing your breasts; fast-forward to a year later, being hospitalized and eventually losing your hair. In what ways has your life changed since then?
I’ve always been open about that dark period in my life; hell I’m open about all of the things that have happened to me. And really I talk about these things, depression, being fired, losing my hair and breasts because there is not one thing there I should be ashamed of. People get fired. People struggle in marriage and personal crises. People have to deal with depression.
When I was going through my bought with depression, my doctor initially put my on anti-depressants. I took them for a while but didn’t notice much of a difference in my mood or how I felt.
It was then I decided I was going to have to save myself. I was going to have to be an active participant in my own life. I could no longer be a victim of the things that were happening to me; I was going to have to accept them and then chart a course for my own future.
So I started writing and creating my own niche with Good Enough Mother. For a long time it felt like it was just me shouting in the wilderness but then something happened; with consistency I built an audience of people who thought the way I did about parenting and life.
Now, nearly a decade later, Good Enough Mother is a fully formed brand that continues to grow with the help of a team of writers and strategic partnerships.
And at the end of the day I accomplished what I set out to do which was to build something that no one could ever take from me.
The one other thing I did which helped a lot was I made it a point to get some sort of exercise in. Sometimes it was as simple as walking the dog; other times it was more strenuous. But the simple act of getting out of my house, changing my surroundings, making an effort made me feel more in control of my destiny.
What do you hope people take away from your journey?
I think the thing I want most for people to take from my journey is that life is a path and a process. It is not a destination where you get to the end and then put up your feet because there is no place left to go. Learning is life long and when you stop learning you stop growing. The reason people don’t love to hear that is because real growth hurts. That kind of stretching that makes you a different person? No one likes that because it’s painful. But if it doesn’t challenge you it won’t change you and this we know from fitness. You have to push heavier weight in order not to get stagnant. It’s the same thing in life; you have to embrace new and different challenges if you want to grow.
In the end I would have to say this; the life I planned is not the one I lead, but, even as difficult as part of have been, I wouldn’t change one aspect of it!
To stay updated on Rene’s journey, be sure to visit her website, GoodEnoughMother.com. You can also find her on social media: